Women are the most unique creatures on the planet.
We are the caretakers, nurturers, lovers, and the glue of the entire world. Healing is something we are expected to do “naturally”. Who does Billy run to when he skins his knees, and when Tiffany falls off her bike, who does she cry for: mommy. We can put the necessary band aids and antiseptic cream on the wounds, but it is the woman’s touch that is so healing. So who heals the mommy’s, aunties, sister’s, grammy’s and professional women’s wounds? Who heals us?
These roles we choose to play; often times overshadow our own hopes and dreams for us personally. Do we know who we are without these titles and identities? A patient recently shared with me in an utterly overwhelmed state of exhaustion and frustration that she was pulled in so many directions that she didn’t know who she was anymore. The path for her life was like a “ghost”, compared to who she was for everybody else in her life.
Unfortunately, we often don’t show up on our own radar screens. As airline safety regulations require adults to put on their air mask FIRST before putting on a child’s. If we could adopt this motto for our own healing path and take care of ourselves first, we then can ultimately be that refuge of safety, comfort and support to others, as well as ourselves. We can live the authentic life that we were meant to live.
Healing must begin with US. I can offer some simple solutions to make it easier to heal ourselves. First, we want to identify and acknowledge our feelings. “I feel frustrated that I don’t have time for me.” “I feel angry that I have to cook tonight.” “I feel guilty that I don’t want to go to the hockey game today.” Open and honest communications with us and others can lead to finding solutions that work for everybody.
Getting to the root cause of the emotions can be the most liberating feeling. Finding out what old programs and “blueprints” have cause these stuck patterns in our cellular memory, is the biggest source of change and healing.
Make a commitment to honor yourself and your body and stick to it. “I’m going to yoga class every Thursday night”, or “I’m sorry, I can’t stay late tonight, I have a previous commitment” (no one has to know the commitment is to yourself). Place these things on the “TO DO” list, and giving them priority. Some sort of creative expression is a great stress releaser.
Minimally, taking a few minutes of QT: Quiet Time everyday is essential. This is the few breaths of alone time you may get and honor it. Connecting to your inner self and God is the essence that can sustain you throughout the day. With daily practice, this will fulfill your life and allow you to experience the calm and peace that you deserve as wonderful healing women.