Are You a Full Adult? Check the Significant Seven and Find Out.
by Mary Vallei, Counseling Hypnotherapist
A fully functioning adult can be defined as an individual who has three core beliefs and four skills sets.
BELIEFS:
- "I believe that I am worthwhile, valuable, and I am significant in my relationships."
- "I believe that I am capable, and competent, and can accomplish what I want to."
- "I believe that I can influence the course of my own life."
SKILLS:
- Strong intra-personal skills. The ability to understand personal emotions, to use that understanding to develop self-discipline and self-control, and to delay gratification.
- Strong interpersonal skills. The ability to work with others and develop friendships though communication, cooperation, negotiation, sharing, empathizing, and listening. Coupleship skills are included.
- Strong systemic skills. The ability to respond to the limits and consequences of everyday life with responsibility, adaptability, flexibility, and integrity.
- Strong wisdom skills. The ability to use wisdom and to evaluate situations according to appropriate values to learn from the experiences of life.